My first post of 2018 coming in right at the end of January, is actually a revision of one I posted last year that has since been
deleted. I’m only a few months in to planning our wedding and I’ve already learned some valuable Do’s and Don’ts.
Weddings seem to come hand in hand with other people’s opinions. While there is absolutely no issue in having an opinion its important to remember that there is also no right or wrong when it comes to weddings and if you’re not careful words can easily come across as totally insensitive.
I have both experienced this and also been guilty of doing the same…
However the only thing that matters is
…YOUR wedding, YOUR rules.
With that in mind here are some of the early stage wedding planning Do’s and Don’ts I’ve learned… so far….
Its very easy to get caught up in the excitement and sudden rush of impending tasks that you neglect something as fundamental as communicating. Talk, talk, talk and nobody will miss a thing.
DO : Be clear with everyone.
Linking in with the above, be clear about what’s happened and what’s going to happen throughout the whole process from your engagement all the way through to the big day.
DON’T : Make assumptions.
Duh. People aren’t mind readers. Don’t make the mistake of assuming. Check that everyone is on exactly the same page.
DON’T: Have bad blood.
Particularly with people that are important to you. Fix up any issues ASAP. Usually you will find they are over silly things anyway. If they are worth it you will sort it out.
DO: Keep a rational head.
Planning a wedding is a tremendous task that can be a bit stressful at times, particularly if you’re holding down a job and running a house. So before you do something rash ask yourself ‘am I going to regret this in the morning?’
DO : Share!
Its the biggest moment in your life, share the experience! Fill in the details to those who need to know and enjoy it.
I for one am going ahead with ALL these things in mind from now on.